"I hate when someone has more than 20 items in the quick check out line...It's my pet peeve". Can you believe that jerk just cut into my lane?... That's my pet peeve".
Most of us have them. Very few people can roll through life without being aggravated by little things like going for a snack in the cupboard and finding the box is empty. Full disclosure - all three of these are pet peeves of mine!
But the longer your pet peeve list, the more stress you are causing yourself. And as we all know, stress is not mentally or physically good for you.
Consider pet peeves sort of like allergies: the more you are dealing with at one time, the more they are weighing negatively on your system.
And think about it - when you get worked up by a pet peeve, what does it solve? You can't (or shouldn't for safety reasons) confront the jerk who cut you off. The snack will not magically appear, because you are upset. The only one you are hurting as your blood pressure rises, your fists clench and your mind races, is you!
So the next time your friend is late for lunch, take a deep breath. Consciously, let it go. Think about how little it matters in the long run and let yourself relax.
Monday, October 26, 2015
Tuesday, October 13, 2015
Bad Habits
“I have got
to lose 10 pounds before we go on our cruise next month.” “I will start saving money for retirement,
right after I pay off my car.” “I will
quit smoking right after my busy season at work is over.”
We all have
things we want to do for ourselves. We
know all the reasons why we should do them. So why don’t we? Let’s talk about it. Let’s talk about you. You consider yourself a pretty together
person. You work hard. You consider yourself a fairly strong
person. So why can’t you tackle that one
thing that’s been nagging at you? You
know it’s good for you. You know all the
reasons why you should do it – quit smoking, stop eating sweets, save more
money, exercise more, stop after one glass of wine, etc.
But when’s
the last time you thought about why you do that “bad thing”? Because there are reasons – simple ones like
“I like chocolate – it tastes really good.”
And there are more complex reasons like “if I look better, maybe men
will start noticing me, and I am afraid of the attention,” or “smoking gives me
an excuse to walk out of the office a few minutes every few hours, and I need
to get out, because I hate my job.”
So you are
supposed to do this good thing and break this bad habit or pattern. But there are valid reasons that you have
these habits.
Sit down and
write out:
- Why it would be good to quit…
- Why it would not be good to quit…
- Why it would be good to keep doing…
- Why it would not be good to keep doing…
These are
different lists – I
promise. Take your time. Nobody but you is going to see this
list. Take a few days, if you need
it. Be honest with yourself. Is it worth it? What “good habit” can you substitute to solve
the reasons why you have that bad habit?
Most people need a substitute – it’s why people who quit smoking often
gain weight! It may be yoga or breathing
techniques or unraveling the root of the issue.
You may
decide it’s not worth it, you’re not ready or you are going to cut back but not
quit. Maybe you can learn to be okay
with those extra pounds. Perhaps you’re
able to commit to 2 cigarettes a day instead of 8.
It’s your
life. It’s your decision. It’s your commitment.
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